Betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is betrayal nonethelss. It is the Highest Betrala. We are not avoiding betrayal by betraying ourself, we are merely choosing whom to betray. In fact, there is no such thing as “betrayal.” There is only the truth, finally spoken.
That is not betrayal at all. That is love. For another, and for ourself. Can we love that much?