When you are sad, accept the sadness: this is you in that moment.
Don’t say “I am sad.”
Don’t say that sadness is something separate from you.
Simply say, “I am sadness in this moment.”
And live your sadness in total authenticity.
And you will be surprised – if you can live your sadness with no ideal of being happy or anything else, you become happy immediately, because the division in you disappears. There is no effort, no conflict. “I am simply this,” and there is relaxation.
And in that relaxation is grace, is joy.